Vulnerablility

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Vulnerability or a Wall....you choose...

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Posted Feb 12, 08 by Drachnid
IMHO, it's all about the level of trust and respect you've built up w/people around you. If you feel you're comfortable with and can trust the person, and you know you've built up the mutual respect that what's shared remains between you, then why not?
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Posted Feb 12, 08 by i0h
I think you have to have a little wall set up.

Posted Feb 12, 08 by popeyecaan
This is thought provoking...Hmmmm..I think it's a good thing these are pretty much "chick" issues..well gotta go! A cold beer's a lonely thing.

Posted Feb 12, 08 by happyyoda121
I had to think about this one for a while.I watched and listened a few times.I'm still thinking.I will be for a while.
Willing to be vulnerable to another person?Lets define it first.1.One that can be wounded or injured;open to attack.2.Sensitive to more...

Posted Feb 12, 08 by Jacob1973
OMG! you should of been a talk host with your own show you are good Girl!

Posted Feb 11, 08 by mkmusic07
I don't think I would say that I can put up the wall either. But others do. Although I take no stock in "macho bravado" either (violence doesn't prove you're a man although on very rare occasions, self-defense is necessary), I would have to agree more...

Posted Feb 11, 08 by Candylashes
I'm not much for "macho bravado"....Too many men hide behind that....
Even a few women.....

Posted Feb 11, 08 by DantesDelToro
I think everyone has their different ‘vulnerabilities’ and yes, I agree that you cannot effectively truly ‘connect’ with others thru such self-erected barriers.

This is why close family and friends are so instrumental to our psychological and spiritual more...

Posted Feb 11, 08 by Candylashes
Wow....soundproofed prison where no one can hear the crying anymore....
That is profound....and true....
Thanks DDT...

Posted Feb 11, 08 by OnlineNow
I have to sgree with "BARONDIXON" There is nothing more I can add...stay gold

Posted Feb 11, 08 by Candylashes
Thanks for stopping by Chris....

Posted Feb 11, 08 by BaronDixon
Thank you, Brother.

Posted Feb 11, 08 by BaronDixon
I think a great many people confuse vulnerability with weakness, and bravado with bravery. I think that in the cases of real bravery, the practitioner isn't thinking to himself how brave he is, he's focused on the goal and is too scared, too angry, and more...too fed up care about the possible danger to himself for his actions.

Emotional insulation, a.k.a. "The Wall" is actually the coward's way out. It is true that you have to insulate yourself from certain people, lest they be a vexation to your spirit. But a flat-out cutting off of emotional connection to all of humanity will only result in leaving the practitioner empty inside.

When you are self-confident, you CAN let yourself be vulnerable. Vulnerability does not negate one's own inner strength. Knowing you can handle yourself FREES you to enjoy the sweet benefits of being vulnerable.

As a creative person, I HAVE to be vulnerable. I can't create in a vacuum. I hafta let it all in, otherwise no one would be able to relate in any way to that which I create. An artist MUST take everything in and process this through the creative mill. This is what makes the addage "You must suffer for your art" at least partially true, but not the absolute truth....

Y'see, if you avoid emotional risk by building that wall of insulation, then yes you do protect yourself from the hazards of human interaction...but you also effectively protect yourself from the joys therein as well. One must give up the security of one rung of the ladder to get to the next.

Vulnerability doesn't necessarily have to exclusively mean "Vulnerable to attack". Anyone who has attempted to attack me based on that fallacy has found this out the hard, fast and painful way, that vulnerability does not necessarily equal weakness. I can be tender and tough at the same time. I rule with an iron fist in a velvet glove.

Vulnerability is an important component to healthy enjoyable sexuality and romance. No one, be they Dominant/submissive, Top/bottom, Master/slave, Man/Woman, can be fulfilled in a sexual encounter without being vulnerable. For women this becomes fairly easy because y'all are permitted to ride your emotions freely in our culture, whereas it's more of a problem for men because we're all being conditioned from boyhood to be the Marlboro Man (At least in the US). We often behave around our women as if our buddies were watching us. Vulnerability is a scary proposition, but it can be learned as a stength unto itself. less

Posted Feb 11, 08 by Candylashes
Iron fist in a velvet glove....
I like that...
And yes, I do think that most people see vulnerability as a weakness...
I never have...
The weak hide behind walls.

Posted Feb 11, 08 by LVbianSynic
Hey CandyLashes!!
This is the first fear I'll be focusing on starting this coming weekend! The first vid's already wrapped and ready to go but I only want to upload one or two vids a week otherwise I get too swamped.

These are GREAT questions!!!

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Posted Feb 11, 08 by LVbianSynic
kewl!!

Posted Feb 11, 08 by Candylashes
Sure!! You can use any of my vids you want....

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