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| | WOMEN | | | Monday, December 28, 2009 (2:21 AM)
(I'm feeling sore) | |
WOMEN are like Ovens , need to make them Hot before you put the Meat In .....
this is true .... isnt it guys ? lemme see your comments ahhihihihih ...
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| | 8 REASONS WHY GUYS ARE OBSESSED WITH SEX | | | Sunday, December 27, 2009 (5:35 PM)
(I'm feeling hot) | | I’ve come up with reasons to explain why many guys are sex-obsessed. Keep in mind I’m not defending being obsessed with sex. I’m just attempting to shed light on why a guy might be obsessed with sex to give you some peace of mind:
We Have To Be “Let In”
Sex physically resembles “VIP Access” because we have to be invited. We work for it, we convince, we campaign, strategize, and pull out all the stops. The woman controls all access. Men enjoy the challenge of obtaining this “invitation”.
It Symbolizes Success To Guys
My friend enjoys insulting me by asking: “when’s the last time you got laid?” I don’t find it insulting when he asks me this- I’m just puzzled why he thinks getting laid makes someone so great. I just want to be called cute, or kiss a cute girl anyway. Guys insult guys who aren’t getting laid, and praise guys who get it all the time. Now if my friend wants to call me out for not getting a kiss or not being called cute in eons, that’s would hurt! Some guys think: "If I'm nice, she might have sex with me," instead of "If I'm nice, she might like me."
Our Heroes Do It
Men and women idolize talented people like musicians and sports heroes, or even geeks like Bill Gates. Part of the fantasy of being wildly successful and talented includes tons of women that fawn upon us. Promiscuous behavior among famous males is glorified in the press while the press chastises Miley Cyrus, for example, for wearing a skirt that’s too short.
It Was a Big Deal Growing Up
At some point, the fun and games dissolved, and my manhood was measured on whether I had lost my virginity or not. It was incredibly intimidating when the older guys would ask me about my “prowess” with women, and how many times I had “bedded” a girl…especially when the answers were: I have no prowess, and I have “bedded” ZERO girls. Young men do feel pressure from other/older guys to lose their virginity. We all grow out of these silly ideas, but the idea of being a “stud” is fostered among guys at an early age.
The Porn Factor
While porn helps satisfy urges, it also intensifies urges. And for women, unlike guys, porn is not a vital necessity like oxygen and water.
We Are Control Freaks
One of the most confusing entities in the world to men is...the woman. We don’t understand why you need entire shelves in your closets just for bags and shoes. We don’t understand why you are so happy one day, then angry the next. As humans, we seek order. Having sex with a girl symbolically, and temporarily, “solves” the mystery and adds a little order to the gender for us…although, I'm sometimes more confused after sex.
We Are Always Thinking About It
Our eyes must have express direct wires to the “sex section” of our brains. We walk around town considering whether we’d have sex with women that pass by and what it would be like to do so. High heels or a sliver of cleavage can set us off. And, one question many guys ask before being introduced to a woman, regardless of the situation: “is she hot”?
We Like To Conquest
It is in our blood to conquest and some of us don’t feel victorious with a kiss or a few dates. The “conquistadors” go for sex, and usually go for it with many women.
Whatever the reason for sex obsession, most of the issue boils down to security. People who need someone else prove that they are worth something are insecure. While it’s a good idea to steer clear of men who are out to conquest or just out to get laid, it’s also good to steer clear of insecure men. Men who need sex to vindicate themselves, feel in control, prove something to their buddies, etc, are obviously not dating material.
Do you agree with my reasons that I’ve listed, and what reasons would you add? Do you find that most men you meet are sex-obsessed, and how does this dictate your actions in dating?
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| | new blogs | | | Sunday, December 27, 2009 (5:30 PM)
(I'm feeling chipper) | |
recognize the new blogs ive posted mostly about men . i took it from "Dating Diaries: Sex and the Single Guy ". coz im so curious about men lol hugs , Z | | | | 25 Views | 2 Thumbs Up | 1 Comment | |
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| | Things to consider before saying I LOVE YOU | | | Sunday, December 27, 2009 (5:25 PM)
(I'm feeling excited) | | You all know my favorite dialogue from Empire Strikes Back as the bad guys are about to freeze Han Solo, and Princess Leia says: "I love you." He says: "I know."
Maybe I'm over-analytical, but there are many things to think about before you say "I love you," or hear your significant other say it to you for the first time. It has the power to move a relationship to another level, but it could also stall or break a relationship.
Here are the things to consider when it comes to saying "I Love You":
Who Goes First?
Princess Leia's downfall in the above quote is letting her emotions take over and saying it first. My biggest fear about saying "I Love You" is not having her say it back. It's sad, but even though you love someone, you might hold back from saying it first because you don't know if they'll say it back.
Do You Really Mean It?
Whether it's concious or unconsious, saying "I Love You" might be a manipulation tactic. It can be used for power, to smooth over mistakes, and keep someone around. So, you do have to wonder if they mean it when they say it...or if you mean it when you say it. And when you break up someone can always throw: "you said you loved me" back in your face.
I've told one girl I loved her, but I didn't mean it. I thought I meant it. "I Love You" can be manipulative, even if the perpetrator is not aware they are using it to manipulate. I did not feel right having sex with my first girlfriend (we were both virgins) unless we were "in love". That's a noble stand to take, but it led to unsavory behavior. Eventually, my desire to lose my virginity dictated my words. I told my girlfirend I loved her as a means to an end. I knew I had to say it so we could have sex. And several months later we had sex, and I never loved her-- hopefully at least I thought I loved her at the time.
Spontaneous Or Planned?
The best way to say "I Love You," is to let it grow inside you and spontaneously jump out. It should take you by storm, and it should create a memorable moment. But all too often, the weight of saying it for the first time forces you to think about it. You might end up planning when/how you'll say it. And if you end up planning it, you kick yourself because you originally planned for it to be spontaneous. Boy, that's confusing! In the quest for it to be "right" and memorable, the first "I love you" is drained of spontaneity.
Is It The Right Time?
Sometimes it's best not to rock the boat. If you drop "I Love You" on your significant other while they are enjoying the pace of the relationship, it might be overwhelming. Some people like a casual relationship, or they like it to "feel" casual, and "I Love You" might be too much if it's said too soon. There's no going back once you use the "L" word.
Is It Better To Show It Than Say It?
In English class, my teacher taught us: show me, don't tell me. In other words, actions speak louder than words. To me, it's more inspiring when a friends/relatives shows they love me, by standing up for me, supporting me, etc.
I annoy my buddies when I do stupid things like run out of gas (I tend to do that more than the average person), but they are always there for me when I call them and need a ride. Just knowing someone is there for you, and cares about you is stronger than any three word phrase. I'm not saying you should avoid saying "I Love You," but it's stronger and more challenging to show it through your actions. Han Solo's line is actually reveals that he's well aware of Leia's love for him through her actions.
What are your thoughts on saying "I Love You" for the first time? Do you agree with my thoughts above? Do you shy away from saying it for the first time? What effects has the phrase had on your relationship after it's been said? Have you ever been manipulated or used it to manipulate someone in a relationship?
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| | 8 things men think when they try to meet women | | | Sunday, December 27, 2009 (5:19 PM)
(I'm feeling busy) | | The funny thing about "hitting on" a woman is that, while we guys are often the aggressor, we usually fake: confidence, looking like we are in control, and "smoothness." Internally, there's a storm of thoughts in my head that are not only comical, but should be enough to boost your confidence any time a guy hits on you.
Knowing what we are thinking might put you at ease. Here are the thoughts running through my head as I approach and hit on a girl:
Do I Look OK?
As I'm approaching a girl, I'm wondering if my hair is flopping strangely (even though I'm constantly fixing it), if I have any "crust" on my nose or mouth, or if my fly is down. I run through this checklist in slow motion as I'm walking toward her. Even while I'm talking to her, I'll mentally run through all the things that could be wrong with my appearance. I'll fail quickly if I'm not looking good.
How Many Other Guys Have Tried?
I hope she's not thinking "here we go again," and adding me to the pot of lame guys that she's already turned down. Most guys try to set themselves apart from the pack. Chances are, if I'm the third or fourth guy, the other guys have given "males" a bad name, and this girl will want nothing to do with me.
Why Did I Say That Stupid Thing?
I scrutinize things I say to a girl as they are popping up my mind and as they are coming out of my mouth. It's amazing that I can say so many stupid things with that diligent filter. OK, the filter is not diligent at all. But I even question the not-obviously-stupid things I say after I've said them. In fact, a large percentage of the things I say are dumb, especially when I venture into "off the beaten path" topics in an attempt to separate myself from the pack.
What Should I Say Next?
Asking questions is supposed to be good, but I'm too busy internally deciding what to ask or say next while a woman is answering or talking to me. So, she's white noise while I'm frantically searching my mind for the next words.
Am I Overstaying My Welcome?
Sometimes it's best to leave on top and walk away with a positive vibe. But, I have to figure out if I want to get a number or leave and come back. Bottom line: the girl I'm hitting on didn't come out to spend time with me all night. Even if it's going well it might be best to walk away and let her think about it a bit instead of hijacking her evening.
Is She Flirting?
Flirting is overrated for a few reasons: a. Many guys don't put much stock into it because flirting isn't always serious, and b. Clueless guys like me can't even tell when a girl is flirting. I definitely notice the obvious moves: laughing at my dumb jokes, touches, eye contact, but I'm never really sure if she's just flirtatious in nature or if she really intends to flirt with me.
Why Can't I Be Myself?
When I meet a girl for the first time, I'm extra courteous and behaved (provided I'm not drunk and acting like an idiot). It all feels so fake sometimes. I want to admit you're really hot, I want to admit that I have nerdy vices in my life, I want to talk about crazy history and music. I have to be a "restrained" version of myself the first time around, but it's not fun holding back my personality. And then, of course, I wonder if she's holding back her personality too.
Is There an Angry Boyfriend Around Here?
It's all fun and games until an angry boyfriend pulverizes me. It's so awkward when a boyfriend catches me in the act of hitting on his girlfriend. What's more, I might just be a pawn in her game to make her boyfriend jealous. Do us all a favor and somehow clue us in that you're single early on — or get rid of us by mentioning a boyfriend (you can pretend you have a boyfriend to get rid of us too).
Did you know guys are thinking these sorts of things, or do most guys appear confident and in control? What kinds of thoughts are going on in your mind when you're getting hit on, or when you hit on a guy?
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| | 9 signs he's cheating | | | Sunday, December 27, 2009 (1:39 PM)
(I'm feeling restless) | | When you get suspicious that your significant other is cheating, be careful not to appear to be paranoid. You have to walk a fine line — you don't want to make false accusations.
So, while I'm sharing this list of cheating red flags, I concede that it's a tricky situation. It's hard to be sure if someone's cheating, but protect yourself: Be vigilant, and pay attention to your mind and spirit within the relationship. But, at the same time, be careful not to let anxiety lead the way because unnecessary paranoia will just drive your lover away.
Here are some red flags that may signal that your significant other is cheating:
Less Sex
Unless he's Superman, he can only have so much sex. So, if he's getting it from another source, you might notice. Whether it's another woman or a porn addiction — even if he's not cheating — a decrease in sex signals serious issues in the relationship.
Jumpy Cell Phone Habits
In a perfect world, we'd be open about sharing our correspondence with our significant others. Most of the time, we trust that we don't have to worry about who is texting or calling them. But, if you notice that he is getting protective and/or nervous when he gets calls or texts, it may be cause for alarm.
Gushing or Talking About Someone Suddenly
You know that exhilarating feeling you get when you meet someone new and exciting? You want to tell the world about him. One of my exes began talking about a guy a lot near the end of our relationship — he just always seemed to be at her social gatherings that I didn't happen to attend. Sure enough, after she dumped me, she began dating him.
Disconnect
Even though relationships ebb and flow naturally, if you're sensing that he's drawing away from you, then there may be someone else. Emotional disconnect should be investigated regardless of whether it's caused by cheating. There's a problem if he's not laughing or seeming as passionate as usual. It's hard to spread love/passion between two people, so the person who used to have it will feel it slipping away if it's being given to someone else.
He's Pulling Houdinis
If he's disappearing, traveling, or unavailable to the point where you are starting to wonder, then he could be cheating. Also, these times tend to take on a pattern because it's tough to synch up schedules, especially in secret.
Friends Acting Strange
His friends will certainly remain loyal to him in most cases. They will not let you know what's going on, but they will definitely be racked with guilt, and their behavior may change slightly when they are around you while protecting his secret.
Caught in Other Lies About Other Things
If you catch him in a lie, your trust will naturally be damaged. Don't hold a grudge — forgiveness is a good thing. You can forgive, but don't forget. If he consistently breaches your trust, it's establishing a pattern of behavior that leads to cheating. Do yourself a favor: If he keeps lying, whether these lies are big or small, get out while you can and don't let him talk his way back in.
Been There, Done That
I always say: "Once a cheater, always a cheater." If he's done it before, he's definitely capable of doing it again. It has nothing to do with you, which is why you can't say that he cheated on his previous lover because she didn't keep him happy. Cheating is a self-serving act in which the cheater doesn't take his significant other into consideration. If someone is upfront with you that he's made mistakes in the past, maybe give them a chance — but make it a long probationary period before you let your guard down.
Your Gut Tells You So
Don't ignore your sixth sense. People are gifted at sensing when something doesn't feel right. Whether there are red flags in your relationship that are clueing you in or not, if something feels off, don't ignore this feeling. Usually that feeling is right, and something intangible may have led to you figuring it all out.
Do you have any red flags that you'd add to this list? Would you say that you're generally good at figuring cheaters out, or do you seem to find yourself getting cheated on often? What sorts of behaviors do you think are characteristic of someone who could be a cheater?
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| | 9 secrets men keeps away from women | | | Monday, December 28, 2009 (2:24 AM)
(I'm feeling moody) | | 1. We hate when you try too hard to be one of the guys. It's pretty lame that my buddies and I invent words and languages and then giggle over them like schoolchildren. But what's even lamer: when some outsider tries to use the language, without the ability to contribute. That's what one of my old girlfriends did. It got to the point where I bristled every time I heard her speak one of our made-up words.
2. We do think you're crazy sometimes, but only because it makes things easier for us. Once I accepted that women were "crazy" (many older guys had insisted they were for years), it seemed to take a huge load of pressure off me. When I just throw it all out the window and dismiss it as "crazy," it makes it easier to deal.
3. Heavy makeup is a turnoff. I've always been the type of guy who appreciates a natural look as it is, and when a girl does her makeup well, the results can be magical. But the one thing that should never happen is excessive application: too much, too many colors, or if it's just a botched attempt at a good makeup technique. There is nothing more ghastly than makeup run amuck in the morning after spending the night together.
4. We want to bail the morning after a one-night stand. Do not linger in bed hung over.
Do everything you can to get home and fester in your own bed. Give each other a hug, wish each other well, don't say anything about calling, and don't believe him when he mutters that he will call you.
5. Sex in the shower is overrated. I once tried this, but the entire time I was trying to contort my body so that I could get everything inserted correctly. That "up against the wall" variation is tougher than it sounds. The entire shower apparatus is so slippery, and then you have soap all over the place. It's a danger zone.
6. You're not the only one who engages in retail-therapy post-breakup. I have shopped during emotional low points. Wearing new clothes makes me feel confident. There is also a social aspect of shopping because you are usually with friends, consorting with other shoppers and salespeople.
7. Sometimes, we do blame your bad mood on PMS. Honestly, sometimes a woman's anger does look hormonal. I have said something to a girl one day that she laughs at, but then a week later she bites my head off when I say the same thing. But I've learned not to make things worse by suggesting that she's PMSing.
8. We think we are good in bed. Men are taught that confidence solves just about anything. You can be making a total mistake, but as long as you're confident, it will turn out okay. This may explain why we are so clueless at what we are doing in bed, but we act like we know.
9. We put pressure on ourselves to get married. Women tell me that they feel more pressure to settle down because they can't have children as easily past a certain age. I don't feel pressure in that sense, but I do fear that my appearance and my "game" will fade as I get older. It's fun being one of the few guys in my group of friends who hasn't yet found love, but at the same time I wonder what is wrong with me...and if time is running out.
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| | 10 things a husband should never do | | | Sunday, December 27, 2009 (1:26 PM)
(I'm feeling peaceful) | | Guys, we love you, we really do. But as wonderful as you are, every so often you do something that makes us want to jump out the nearest window (or push you out first). Please, please, don’t ever…
1. Offer to “babysit” your own kids. When your 16-year-old neighbor does it, it’s called babysitting. When a parent does it, it’s called child care, and it lasts for at least 18 years. Get it?
2. Imply that office work is harder than housework. At the end of a hard day, there may be smoke coming out of your ears, but let’s face it: You’ve basically been sitting on your butt. That same smoke is coming out of our ears too—but we’ve cleaned the house, shuttled the kids around, run errands all over town and lugged grocery bags besides. When we say we’re exhausted, we are exhausted.
3. Give a home appliance as a gift. Forgive us if we can’t work it up for this one. A new washing machine? Really? Can we get you some new snow tires?
4. Buy us the “cougar” perfume. Under our crew-neck sweaters may beat the heart of an untamed vixen—but most of us don’t want to smell like one. (Nice try, though.)
5. Brag about your driving. This is supposed to let us know that ours isn’t so great. If my husband tells me one more time that he’s been “accident-free since 1978,” I’m going to reach over, grab the wheel and make the car swerve into something, just to shut him up.
6. Be unimpressed by a meal that took a lot of time and trouble. I don’t know whose fault this is (Food Network? Julie and Julia?), but every so often we get the idea that it would be fun to make stock and spend the day basting. If the result is less than earth-shattering, say something nice anyway.
7. Buy clothes without trying them on. We know that the second you get into a department store you start to feel faint, but do us a favor and take the extra five minutes. Otherwise, you know who gets stuck with the returns?
8. Know it all, especially in public. Oh, honey. While you’re going on at length about whatever it is, we’re taking the temperature of the room, and we know everyone’s starting to fidget.
9. Say anything remotely critical about our new haircut. Sometimes getting a new cut goes well; sometimes it doesn’t. Usually we know the difference. Don’t rub it in.
10. Expect a medal for doing a little housework. Umm…it’s your house too, right? For now, we’ll give you the bronze. Maybe someday, if you work hard enough, you can pick up a gold.
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| | day off | | | Sunday, November 15, 2009 (6:20 AM)
(I'm feeling relaxed) | |
im just here , at home . enjoying my day off . cooking meals and playing with my son. i will go out later to have a walk . this is my life here in Belgium , its like a routine . but im looking forward this December , coz i will have more days at home , yeah ; i took all my remaining holidays so i might travel around europe for a day or two . i chat at yahoo most of the time when i got home from work , talking to my family and kids , friends online and to my love , Andrew .
i check my mails regularly and sometimes i upload pictures or costumize them . my primary web profiles are myspace, friendster and here in Livevideo . I seldom put a show these days coz i work more and busy in yahoo chat . i might always write a blog from now on. i like writing , as you can see i dont put on my mic when im on a liveshow , i always type . im shy to talk .
ill go a bit for now , thx for reading , if u have some questions or message , just write me and ill reply whenever i can .
have a nice day to all ,
zaharajoyz ___ xoxoxooxxooxxo
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| | 5 THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER TELL A GUY | | | Tuesday, November 3, 2009 (5:35 PM)
(I'm feeling giggly) | | 5 Things you should never Tell a Guy
In the realm of male-female communication, there are certain topics most of us recognize as single-sex only. We'll spare you the details about the comeback the Jets made, and you spare us the details about Ethan, the ex who was so well-hung his penis had a nickname for him. This approach ensures that nobody gets bored, and nobody gets pissed off.
But love isn't that simple. Fact is, there are other, less obvious subjects that men wish you'd reserve for your girlfriends. If you're wooing a guy, never bring up the following five "turnoff topics:"
Turnoff topic 1: All the cute things your pet does.
We think of pets as noble beasts, as partners in adventure. Which makes it disturbing when you start talking baby talk to them. "Nipsy, wipsy. Your mommy loves you, oh, yes she does." Coddling a pet makes men suspect that your ideal companion is completely dependent upon you for food, lets you dress him up in colorful wool sweaters, and can be castrated if he starts acting too frisky.
Turnoff topic 2: Your belief in alternative medicine.
I was talking to a woman at a bar recently, and we were really connecting ... until she started telling me about visits to her vitaminologist. "He told me I had happiness stuck in my bladder." No matter how important you may feel it is to share your spiritual side, remember: When you tell us about your experiences with aromatherapy, reflexology, or crystals, all we hear is unstable, unstable, unstable.
Turnoff topic 3: How impressed you are with what others make.
I was out with my best friend, Greg, who goes to law school. We met one girl who started assessing the crowd: "Oh, my God, there are so many law-school guys here tonight. You know, in their first year out of school they make $119,000!"
You don't have to convince us that you're oblivious to material possessions. But ogling a man's paycheck -- ours or somebody else's -- makes us feel like you're attaching our worth to our wallets. And we know there's always going to be someone out there with deeper pockets than ours.
Turnoff topic 4: How beautiful the scenery is.
When confronted by natural beauty, men prefer to contemplate it in silence. Women, for some reason, feel compelled to talk at just the moment when we most want quiet. I spent a week on a Mediterranean island with a group that included four women who never met a sunset they couldn't ruin. ("That pink is so deep. I think it's, like, the deepest pink I've ever seen.") They failed to get the joke when my friends and I tried to give them a taste of their own medicine: "Look at that water! It's just, like, so wet."
Turnoff topic 5: Who your favorite celebrities are dating.
Demi and Bruce break up/make up; Oprah gains/loses 20 pounds. We don't care. Pamela Lee opens her mouth real wide and accommodates all of Tommy's manhood? Okay, we care. As a rule of thumb, unless they're naked, we don't want to know. Men have far too hard a time keeping up with their own relationships; the last thing we want is the responsibility of keeping up with the lives of people we'll never meet.
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