lately, iv'e been asked by several persons, "who am i?" what do i mean to others, whats my place in the world? well, the surface answer to these questions are easy to vocalize, but the real answer runs so much deeper. first off, who cares what you mean to others? what do you mean to you? how do you feel about you? how do you feel about you? ( not the bullshit autopilot answer, you tell yourself to get through mirror time....THINK.) whats the worlds place in your life? people lash thier psyches with the former questions so much, to the point of mental paralysis. and they look for the answers in so many different directions, accept the one direction where they have the best chance of finding it. has anyone thought of looking inside themselves? i mean, how do you find yourself, outside yourself? ok, you shouldn't completely cut the outside world off, you need to put yourself through situations, for two reasons, first to learn who you are, and secondly, to learn who you want to be. most of us already have an idea of both who we are and who we wish to be, the problem is that most of us havn't the first idea of how to be satisfied with this knowledge, or what to do with it. sooooo, with no idea that they already possess this information, they attatch themselves to any and everything they can think of in the hopes of finding what their supposed place in the world is. if you want to attatch to something in order to feel better, then you just became an addict. what you do in any given situation, is who you are. if you are not happy with your actions at these decision gates, then you just learned who you might want to be. one thing is certain, you'll never find yourself, looking away from yourself. you cannot attatch your lifes path to anothers, so you could learn where you are to go.my dad once told me, that people that cannot be by themselves, just don't like themselves. thats why they need to look for acceptance in the faces of others.    find out who you are before you decide whether or not you like yourself or not. if you find that you dont, then you have some work to do. you cant learn to like yourself by striving to find someone that does. hey heres a thought,                     people who get their asses kissed, really like those doing the kissing. they dont respect them, but they do like em.     there are plenty of people who will like parts of you, but is that what any of us really want? ya gotta look into yourself and learn to either like what you find, or build yourself into some one  that you can like. to becom the person that you,( you know "you". the person that lives deep inside you next to your heart, you!) should be.